Embrace Your Single Life To Increase Your Chance Of a Happy Relationship

Posted by Brooke M.
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After a bad break up or just even if you are in between relationships it is important to learn to be happy all on your own. In this day and age with the media and movies force feeding us the “ideal vision of love” it can be hard to enjoy life without feeling the pressure of society to find a partner. In order to find a lasting relationship it is necessary to enjoy your single life and spend time getting to know who you are and what you need and want in life.

First thing to reach bliss while single would be to learn to love yourself. While you are single you have the freedom to get to know who you are as a person. You are able to understand what your core values are, your preferences, and your needs to determine what you want when you decide to settle down. When you take the time to learn about your character, it allows you to become the best version of yourself.

Your wallet will thank you for remaining single because relationships are costly. Being single gives you time to save money to eventually follow your own dreams. In a relationship, there is usually a constant flow of money going into your partner. Whether that be going out to eat all the time, attending events, buying gifts etc. Debt is less of an issue for single people who only have to worry about taking care of themselves and their own finances. A good tip would be to stay single until you are financially stable.

Another luxury of being single is the fact you can work at your own pace when it comes to choosing the person you want to be in a relationship with. The longer you are single the more time you will have to figure out your goals, aspirations and expectations. When you are ready to jump back into the dating pool it is good to explore your options. Date multiple people to find out who is out there and help further determine who would be a good match for you.

The funny thing about love is that it will find you when you are least expecting it. As cliche as it sounds it is very true, I am a firm believer of this idea for the simple fact that I have experienced it. I was in a relationship for almost 5 years and between falling out of love and lost of trust our relationship ended. As soon as I became single I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulder. It gave me the opportunity to spread my wings, hang out with friends and family, and enjoy getting to know who I was without my ex. One weekend I started catching up with an old friend who started hanging out with me and my friends more frequently. Before I knew it we started hanging out every weekend, talking every day and eventually fell in love with each other. So moral of the story? Don’t stay in a relationship that you aren’t happy in, enjoy your single life and all the positive things that come along with it and let love happen.

8 Tips On Having a Handle On Your Divorce

Posted by Brooke M.
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Divorce is a huge milestone in life that is emotionally charged and often can cause you to lose your composure. Once all the dust has settled from your divorce it is time to take small steps each day to take your life back into your own hands. It is time to forge a new path and create new habits that allow you to live your life to the fullest.Read More

Divorce After 50: Top Reasons For Silver Divorces

Posted by Brooke M.
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Late life or “silver” divorce is becoming more common than ever. According to the National Center for family and marriage research at Bowling State Green University in Ohio, in 2014 people age 50 and above were twice as likely to go through a divorce in 1990. There are many reasons why people in this particular age range are making such a big life change later in life. One thing that is clear is a lot changed since the Baby Boomers starting getting married which has led to a higher amount of silver divorces.Read More

Is the Internet making it easier to cheat?

Posted by Brooke M.
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Should we blame the internet for an increase of infidelity? Between dating apps, social media, and sites catered to people looking to have an affair it is safe to assume the internet has played a big part in the rise of divorce rates.

An interesting study conducted in 2011 by Divorce-Online, a UK-based legal services firm, found that over one-third of divorce petitions cited the word “Facebook”. According to the study the top reasons why social media platform, Facebook, was mentioned was due to having inappropriate messages, bashing each other on social media and from reporting spouse behavior. Facebook is one of many outlets available for married people to search for love interests or engage in appropriate behavior.  Read More

Pets Help Children During Divorce Process

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If you have ever had a pet before you can recall the sense of unconditional love and affection they bring into your life. Children often bond special relationships with their pets and this often comes in handy during traumatic life experiences like a divorce. Having a pet around your children and family during a divorce is proven to have great emotional benefits.Read More

10 Signs You Are Over Your Ex

Posted by Brooke M.
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The end of a relationship can be devastating whether you are the one ending it or the one being broken up with. No matter what way you slice it usually the only thing that will help you get over your ex is time. Usually during a break up you will go through multiple stages from depressed and emotional to angry and resentful. Some days will certainly be harder than others but one day you will wake up and your ex won’t be on your mind. You will go through an entire day realizing that they never crossed your mind. We have created a list of 10 signs that your ex is in your rearview.

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Handling Relationships After Divorce

Posted by Brooke M.
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If you have been married for a while and you are newly divorced the dating world can be an intimidating place. There are so many different platforms out there allowing you to connect with local singles including dating apps, online dating sites and networking events. Now that you are ready to find love again or at least start testing the waters there are some important tips to keep in mind.    Read More

8 Reasons Why Women Cheat

Posted by Brooke M.
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It is estimated that roughly 30-60% of all married individuals in the U.S. will engage in infidelity at some point in their marriage (Buss & Shackleford). As women are becoming more financially independent they are showing more trends of infidelity than ever before. Women tend to have emotional affairs which means they tend to cheat with someone in their social circle. In the world we live in there leaves much more room for opportunities for infidelity to happen on regular basis. Women have their reasons for cheating and we have narrowed down the 8 prominent ones.Read More

Top 7 Mistakes you’re making with Online Dating

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  1. Your profile pic. All of your profile pictures should be normal but flattering, don’t use the best picture of you. The goal is to make sure you are showing your potential dates pictures that reflect you and your lifestyle. You should probably refrain from using any filters or too many editing features that take away from how you look naturally. Make sure to avoid too many group photos because it takes the attention off of you.
  2. Too much info in profile. Follow the “less is more” rule when it comes to creating your profile. The purpose of your profile is to get potential dates to message you so it is good to leave more to the imagination and be a little mysterious. You need to save something to talk about when you are actually on your date. A good profile should include elements of humor and your personality so people can strike up a conversation with you.
  3. Your first message.  Write something that shows you actually read their profile. Avoid using a generic message for everyone you decide to message because it lacks sincerity. Whatever you do, don’t just say “hi”, this will rarely get you a response and it lacks originality.
  4. Stating what you don’t want. You do not want to come across as a negative person in your profile so it is best to focus on what you are looking for versus what you are not. Avoid demanding language and try to keep things soft and inviting.
  5. Don’t go overboard on the first date. For your wallet’s sake do not make it a habit of dropping too much money on your first date. If you are going on multiple dates your budget will feel the pinch. Another reason is to set realistic expectations of what dating you will be like. You do not want to attract people who are interesting in your bank account as opposed to your personality.
  6. Don’t tell your sob story. This can be a real buzz kill for those potential dates who are excited to read your profile. Over-sharing can certainly deter people from messaging you. Everyone has baggage and a past of their own however your profile is not the place to put your past on blast.
  7. Spelling Errors. As simple as this sounds it can be a huge turn off if your spelling mistakes get in the way of your message. A quick proofread before sending a message or updating your profile is a simple solution to your problem. Lots of mistakes can be damaging for a first impression and distracting to the point you’re trying to get across.