Embrace Your Single Life To Increase Your Chance Of a Happy Relationship

Posted by Brooke M.
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After a bad break up or just even if you are in between relationships it is important to learn to be happy all on your own. In this day and age with the media and movies force feeding us the “ideal vision of love” it can be hard to enjoy life without feeling the pressure of society to find a partner. In order to find a lasting relationship it is necessary to enjoy your single life and spend time getting to know who you are and what you need and want in life.

First thing to reach bliss while single would be to learn to love yourself. While you are single you have the freedom to get to know who you are as a person. You are able to understand what your core values are, your preferences, and your needs to determine what you want when you decide to settle down. When you take the time to learn about your character, it allows you to become the best version of yourself.

Your wallet will thank you for remaining single because relationships are costly. Being single gives you time to save money to eventually follow your own dreams. In a relationship, there is usually a constant flow of money going into your partner. Whether that be going out to eat all the time, attending events, buying gifts etc. Debt is less of an issue for single people who only have to worry about taking care of themselves and their own finances. A good tip would be to stay single until you are financially stable.

Another luxury of being single is the fact you can work at your own pace when it comes to choosing the person you want to be in a relationship with. The longer you are single the more time you will have to figure out your goals, aspirations and expectations. When you are ready to jump back into the dating pool it is good to explore your options. Date multiple people to find out who is out there and help further determine who would be a good match for you.

The funny thing about love is that it will find you when you are least expecting it. As cliche as it sounds it is very true, I am a firm believer of this idea for the simple fact that I have experienced it. I was in a relationship for almost 5 years and between falling out of love and lost of trust our relationship ended. As soon as I became single I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulder. It gave me the opportunity to spread my wings, hang out with friends and family, and enjoy getting to know who I was without my ex. One weekend I started catching up with an old friend who started hanging out with me and my friends more frequently. Before I knew it we started hanging out every weekend, talking every day and eventually fell in love with each other. So moral of the story? Don’t stay in a relationship that you aren’t happy in, enjoy your single life and all the positive things that come along with it and let love happen.

8 Tips On Having a Handle On Your Divorce

Posted by Brooke M.
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Divorce is a huge milestone in life that is emotionally charged and often can cause you to lose your composure. Once all the dust has settled from your divorce it is time to take small steps each day to take your life back into your own hands. It is time to forge a new path and create new habits that allow you to live your life to the fullest.Read More

Divorce After 50: Top Reasons For Silver Divorces

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Late life or “silver” divorce is becoming more common than ever. According to the National Center for family and marriage research at Bowling State Green University in Ohio, in 2014 people age 50 and above were twice as likely to go through a divorce in 1990. There are many reasons why people in this particular age range are making such a big life change later in life. One thing that is clear is a lot changed since the Baby Boomers starting getting married which has led to a higher amount of silver divorces.Read More

Is the Internet making it easier to cheat?

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Should we blame the internet for an increase of infidelity? Between dating apps, social media, and sites catered to people looking to have an affair it is safe to assume the internet has played a big part in the rise of divorce rates.

An interesting study conducted in 2011 by Divorce-Online, a UK-based legal services firm, found that over one-third of divorce petitions cited the word “Facebook”. According to the study the top reasons why social media platform, Facebook, was mentioned was due to having inappropriate messages, bashing each other on social media and from reporting spouse behavior. Facebook is one of many outlets available for married people to search for love interests or engage in appropriate behavior.  Read More

Pets Help Children During Divorce Process

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If you have ever had a pet before you can recall the sense of unconditional love and affection they bring into your life. Children often bond special relationships with their pets and this often comes in handy during traumatic life experiences like a divorce. Having a pet around your children and family during a divorce is proven to have great emotional benefits.Read More

10 Signs You Are Over Your Ex

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The end of a relationship can be devastating whether you are the one ending it or the one being broken up with. No matter what way you slice it usually the only thing that will help you get over your ex is time. Usually during a break up you will go through multiple stages from depressed and emotional to angry and resentful. Some days will certainly be harder than others but one day you will wake up and your ex won’t be on your mind. You will go through an entire day realizing that they never crossed your mind. We have created a list of 10 signs that your ex is in your rearview.

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Handling Relationships After Divorce

Posted by Brooke M.
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If you have been married for a while and you are newly divorced the dating world can be an intimidating place. There are so many different platforms out there allowing you to connect with local singles including dating apps, online dating sites and networking events. Now that you are ready to find love again or at least start testing the waters there are some important tips to keep in mind.    Read More

6 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Dating

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  1. Am I doing this for a pick me up? Make sure you are not dating out of fear of being alone. This is a time to enjoy your independence and discover who you are and what path you choose to go on after your divorce. If you are ready to get back into the dating world it is good to be prepared for anything. If you think that dating is all positive you might be let down if rejection happens. Dating can be very exciting and a confidence booster however you can occur speed bumps along the way.
  2. Am I looking for a serious relationship? This will determine your dating approach when getting back into the single scene. If you are looking for something serious it is a good idea to probe your potential date with the important stuff before hand. Ask them about things that are important to you before setting up a date to make sure you are both on the same page. If you are using online dating resources make it clear what you are looking for to avoid disappointment or wasting your time.
  3. What can I do differently this time around? Time to ask yourself the tough questions about your past relationship to determine what you did to help it fail. Understanding what your role was in your own divorce will help you figure out what you need to work on to make your next relationship successful. In order for you to build a better future you must learn from your past.
  4. Do I have time to date?  If you have a job and kids it is hard to section off time for yourself nevermind planning a date. Of course your children are your priority but you deserve to make time for yourself to get out there and meet new people. Schedule a date night for yourself even if you don’t have one lined up yet. If you don’t have a date take this time to focus on improving your dating life.
  5. Am I looking to date multiple individuals at the same time? Tell your date if you are not interesting in a monogamous relationship to clarify what you are looking for. Honesty is the best policy and will help you maintain realistic expectations for your date. You do not want to waste anyone else’s time if they are looking for something more serious when you are interesting in something short term. It is understandable to not be ready for something serious after freshly divorcing, give yourself time to get there.
  6. What are my deal breakers? Compromising comes with the territory of dating and being in a relationship with another individual. It is good to have an idea of what your deal breakers are so you can avoid investing feelings in someone that will not be the right fit for you. Now that you have gained life experience from the divorce it is time to set your standards and stick by them. You know who you are and what you want from a relationship so make sure you are not settling for anything less than what you deserve.

5 People to Avoid in the Dating Pool

Posted by Brooke M.
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Dating after divorce can be scary but it can also be exciting and refreshing to meet new people and build new connections. When getting to know someone it is important to decide who you should be investing your time in and who you should be steering clear of. If you know what to look out for it will be easier to determine what you want from a signficant other and avoid wasting your time. We have compiled a list of people divorcee’s should avoid dating.

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