After a bad break up or just even if you are in between relationships it is important to learn to be happy all on your own. In this day and age with the media and movies force feeding us the “ideal vision of love” it can be hard to enjoy life without feeling the pressure of society to find a partner. In order to find a lasting relationship it is necessary to enjoy your single life and spend time getting to know who you are and what you need and want in life.
First thing to reach bliss while single would be to learn to love yourself. While you are single you have the freedom to get to know who you are as a person. You are able to understand what your core values are, your preferences, and your needs to determine what you want when you decide to settle down. When you take the time to learn about your character, it allows you to become the best version of yourself.
Your wallet will thank you for remaining single because relationships are costly. Being single gives you time to save money to eventually follow your own dreams. In a relationship, there is usually a constant flow of money going into your partner. Whether that be going out to eat all the time, attending events, buying gifts etc. Debt is less of an issue for single people who only have to worry about taking care of themselves and their own finances. A good tip would be to stay single until you are financially stable.
Another luxury of being single is the fact you can work at your own pace when it comes to choosing the person you want to be in a relationship with. The longer you are single the more time you will have to figure out your goals, aspirations and expectations. When you are ready to jump back into the dating pool it is good to explore your options. Date multiple people to find out who is out there and help further determine who would be a good match for you.
The funny thing about love is that it will find you when you are least expecting it. As cliche as it sounds it is very true, I am a firm believer of this idea for the simple fact that I have experienced it. I was in a relationship for almost 5 years and between falling out of love and lost of trust our relationship ended. As soon as I became single I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulder. It gave me the opportunity to spread my wings, hang out with friends and family, and enjoy getting to know who I was without my ex. One weekend I started catching up with an old friend who started hanging out with me and my friends more frequently. Before I knew it we started hanging out every weekend, talking every day and eventually fell in love with each other. So moral of the story? Don’t stay in a relationship that you aren’t happy in, enjoy your single life and all the positive things that come along with it and let love happen.